In action, what is important is what happens after failure. There are no professional athletes or elite employees who can always perform well. If that is the case, you should think that you will not always be successful and that failure is inevitable. When you make a mistake or fail, proceed more carefully than you would normally think. The moment a failure occurs, you will be upset and your field of vision will narrow. Many failures cannot be resolved by the first reaction. For many failures, it is not too late to respond if you calmly accept it and then deal with it. Carefully review the situation. This will help the tension of failure to fade. Create a situation that the tension will fade and think specifically about how to deal with it well. By thinking specifically, you will be able to use your experience of failure to deal with it well the next time.
There are people in this world who are good at dealing with failure and people who are not so good at it. The early stages of this can be seen in children entering elementary school. A hint about this failure can be found in the comparison between the lifestyle group and the learning group. When children enter elementary school, a comparison is made between the lifestyle group and the learning group. The lifestyle group are children who are absorbed in helping with housework and playing. The learning group children have mastered reading, writing, and arithmetic before entering school so as not to fall behind in elementary school. In some ways, they enter elementary school fully prepared. At first, the learning group children are dominant. However, after a while, this dominance is equalized, and before you know it, the advantage in learning also disappears. The strength of the lifestyle group is that they have experienced many mistakes and failures. They learn important lessons from mistakes and failures and increase their activity. These children seem to develop their talents.
Why do failures and regrets help people grow? In one experiment, the subjects’ moods after crying were examined, and 80% of them answered that “crying made them feel refreshed.” Tears shed from pain had the effect of relieving the stress state in the body that occurs with emotional elevation. It was found that the human suffering and sadness system produces results that are advantageous for the survival and reproduction of the human species. Humans have a mechanism for releasing pain and sadness, which also serves the function of protecting our descendants. There is also a theory that experiencing failure and regret can deepen a person’s character and be a shortcut to success.
